Today I wanted to touch on a subject that is not directly connected to internet marketing or making money online… but it is! Success vs failure…
Most people don’t really know what it is they want… Many define what they want by stating what they don’t want. As a result, they get exactly what they don’t want. Why? Simply because instead of focusing on what they do want they are focused on what they don’t want!
If you focus on the things you don’t want, you are going to get what you focus on. Where focus goes, energy flows! Now that might seem like it’s backwards but in reality that is exactly what many people do and they don’t understand why they continually get the results they get. Your mind attracts to you that which is the center of your focus. If your focus is on what you don’t want you will get that which you focus on.
It is extremely important to be specific about what you want as well. It is not enough to say you want more money; you must be specific about the amount of more money you want. If you make $50,000 a year, your subconscious mind thinks that $50,001 is more money which it is and therefore you have reached your goal. Your efforts to get more fail because you’re now thinking I don’t want $50,001 I want more.
Now you might be thinking “I want to make more money and in the back of your mind more money means $60,000 a year, but all you say is more money. See the difference? You must be specific and say next year I want to make $60,000. You must know exactly what it is you want or you will fail to get it.
Here’s what will make all the difference in the world:
You must know exactly what it is you want!
You must know every detail, how having what you want will make you feel. What having what you want will do for you, give you more status, more prestige, raise your standard of living. You must know every detail or you will stumble along the way and feel like a failure.
You must have a time frame in mind!
You need to set a date by which you expect to have gained the object of your focus. If you desire to fit those designer jeans by springtime and you need to lose 15 pounds, set a date by which you expect to have lost the weight. Then using a series of smaller goals, affirm to lose 1 to 2 pounds pre week by mapping out a diet to cut out 500 calories a day.
Your goal must be measurable!
First start out with the end result clearly in mind. You should start out with a series of smaller obtainable goals. Success with these smaller goals fuels your confidence towards achieving a larger goal. Then have something to gage your success by. Starting with the end result, work backwards in detail until you get to the starting point where you will set out to achieve you goal. This gives you the exact steps you need to take to achieve your goal. Each step should lead you closer to obtaining your desired result. This becomes your ruler, check to see if you are on course.
You have to write down your goals!
Writing your goals out is another way to check if you have strayed from the course. It gives you something to follow. Write your goals out and read them daily. We have billions of thoughts per day and a goal is just another thought. Writing it down helps to keep that thought in mind instead of it being replaced by one of the other billions of thoughts. It also helps with your commitment to your goal. Seeing it daily reaffirms it in your mind.
Evaluate your progress!
Are you making headway? If not, why not? Adjust your plan to meet your long-term goal. Are you meeting your weekly or monthly weight loss goals? If not, determine what might be the problem. Add another half hour of walking each week or cut out second helpings.
Challenge yourself through adversity!
That means work hard, push yourself and feel a little discomfort if it means helping you reach your goals. Understand and acknowledge that change is not easy. If it were, you would have already achieved your goal. We tend to revert to previous behaviors when change gets difficult. Now is the time to develop new life behaviors.
You have a choice in what you get or don’t get. You choose to have success or you choose to have failure. There is nothing in between the two except you. What you choose to think about will be what you get. Focus on failure and no amount of effort will bring you the success you desire. The thing to do is focus your mind on success.
Chat soon 🙂